
October 5 is my father’s birthday. I still honour him on his day, though he died on July 11, 1970 - 105 years since his birth.
He was youngest of seven children. Born to working class parents, his father a shop-keeper, his greatest regret was being forced to leave school for work at the age of 14.
My mother met him at Lyons Corner house opposite Charing Cross station. They both worked there: she a Nippy (waitress with white starched headgear), he the doorman, top hat, full length green coat and white gloves to welcome the clientele.
They were both 22 when they married.
Soon Dad moved to Smithfield to work at J T Hart Jnr, a sandwich and cooked meat shop whose business was to feed the porters of the adjacent wholesale meat market and anyone else who wanted quality food at a fair price. Sawdust on the floor, but a good meal quaranteed.
He kept his hand to the plough for thirty years, becoming manager and eventually buying the business which he ran all through the war years.
If there is one aspect of my father’s character that signalled him from others it was his generosity. Due to his unstinting hard work and his acumen as investor on the post-war London stock market, he became a wealthy man.
My mother would say: ‘I’ve asked him: how much are you worth? But he will never answer.’ Sufficient to provide for his wife and four children, buying each of us our first home.
Yet my father was generous to a whole host of other people whom he helped without fuss or even mention. During the war years of rationing, he would make regular trips to a Franciscan Friary near our home in Lewisham. Much later, I met one of the monks who remembered his generosity in stocking their meagre larder and keeping the community going during lean times.
He would say, if someone asks you for money, just give it to them. A loan is too complicated. He offered his brother-in-law £1000 in the Sixties to start up a plastics mould company. Ten years later, after he had died, the same sum was repaid to me to help my wife and I set up The Red House, our children’s bookshop in Thame.
What goes out, comes back.
Thank you, Bert, my Dad for giving me a sense of generosity.
I have tried to follow suit: but never quite made it into your league.
A Happy Birthday.